A significant portion of the United States is married and adding the people across the world that are married now, and those that have been married across the ages, and you have yourself a deep pool of wisdom about marriage to draw from. There are many passages of Scripture that address husbands and wives, and that shape our understanding of marriage. This article is focused on how people take those many passages, reflecting on them and the wisdom they’ve gleaned. In other words, the following quotes on married life show how various people have tried to make sense of marriage and how to do married life well.

Married life is a mass of complexities. That’s because people are complicated, and when two people are married to one another, that complication only increases. Couples love one another, have squabbles, laugh together, make love, welcome others into their home, work through problems, forgive one another, deal with sickness, grieve and rejoice together – in short, they do life together with all its ups and downs.

24 Quotes on Married Life

Into all this, God has given his wisdom through Scripture, and he has also given his people the Spirit to discern how to live in light of Scripture. May the following quotes on married life bless you and your spouse as you reflect on the amazing gift that is marriage.

Like a soft, deep layer of mulch, transparency in your marriage will keep most weed seeds dormant and unable to sprout. Barbara Rainey

Have a good and godly marriage that shows the world Christ’s love through how you sacrificially love and serve one another. – John Stange

A happy marriage is the union of two good forgivers. Ruth Bell Graham

No matter how many rules we make for ourselves, rules don’t create godly relationships. Only leaning on our faithful Father and longing to please Him with everything we do will set the stage for a beautiful romance!Eric Ludy

A happy marriage looks to the future, not the past.Dale Partridge

We are here to love. Not much else matters. – Francis Chan

A good wife is heaven’s last, best gift to man, – his gem of many virtues, his casket of jewels; her voice is sweet music, her smiles his brightest day, her kiss the guardian of his innocence, her arms the pale of his safety, her industry his surest wealth, her economy his safest steward, her lips his faithful counselors, her bosom the softest pillow of his cares. – Jeremy Taylor

A marriage, or a marriage partner, may be compared to a great tree growing right up through the center of one’s living room. It is something that is just there, and it is huge, and everything has been built around it, and wherever one happens to be going––to the fridge, to bed, to the bathroom, or out the front door––the tree has to be taken into account. It cannot be gone through; it must respectfully be gone around. It is somehow bigger and stronger than oneself. True, it could be chopped down, but not without tearing the house apart. And certainly, it is beautiful, unique, exotic; but also, let’s face it, it is at times an enormous inconvenience. – Mike Mason

God’s Word is the perfect guidebook for marriage, and those who live by His Word will reap the blessings that obedience brings.Darlene Schacht

Within this Christian vision of marriage, here’s what it means to fall in love. It is to look at another person and get a glimpse of what God is creating, and to say, I see who God is making you, and it excites me! I want to be part of that. I want to partner with you and God in the journey you are taking to his throne. And when we get there, I will look at your magnificence and say, ‘I always knew you could be like this. I got glimpses of it on earth, but now look at you!’ – Timothy Keller

A Christian marriage is [not] one with no problems or even a marriage with fewer problems (it may well mean more problems). But it does mean a life in which two people are able to accept each other and love each other in the midst of problems and fears. It means a marriage in which selfish people can accept selfish people without constantly trying to change them – and even accept themselves, because they realize personally that they have been accepted by Christ.Keith Miller

Many conflicts in a marriage result from living to please self instead of living to please the Lord. These conflicts can be resolved and are actually opportunities for spiritual growth when dealt with in a biblical manner.  – John C. Broger

Nothing can bring a real sense of security into the home except true love.Billy Graham

In any relationship, there will be frightening spells in which your feelings of love dry up. And when that happens you must remember that the essence of marriage is that it is a covenant, a commitment, a promise of future love. So what do you do? You do the acts of love, despite your lack of feeling. You may not feel tender, sympathetic, and eager to please, but in your actions, you must BE tender, understanding, forgiving, and helpful. And, if you do that, as time goes on you will not only get through the dry spells, but they will become less frequent and deep, and you will become more constant in your feelings. This is what can happen if you decide to love. – Timothy Keller

Marriage is a mosaic you build with your spouse. Millions of tiny moments that make up your love story. – Jennifer Smith

Staying married, therefore, is not mainly about staying in love. It is about keeping covenant. ‘Till death do us part’ or ‘As long as we both shall live’ is a sacred covenant promise – the same kind Jesus made with His bride when He died for her.John Piper

Love without truth is sentimentality; it supports and affirms us but keeps us in denial about our flaws. Truth without love is harshness; it gives us information but in such a way that we cannot really hear it. God’s saving love in Christ, however, is marked by both radical truthfulness about who we are and yet also radical, unconditional commitment to us. The merciful commitment strengthens us to see the truth about ourselves and repent. The conviction and repentance moves us to cling to and rest in God’s mercy and grace. – Timothy Keller

To solve a marriage problem, you have to talk with each other about it, choosing wisely the time and place. But when accusations and lengthy speeches of defense fill the dialogue, the partners are not talking to each other but past each other. Take care to listen more than you speak. If you still can’t agree on a solution, consider asking a third party, without a vested interest, to mediate. – R.C. Sproul

Marriage is sharing your life with your best friend, enjoying the journey along the way, and arriving at every destination together. – Fawn Weaver

The man who sanctifies his wife understands that this is his divinely ordained responsibility…Is my wife more like Christ because she is married to me? Or is she like Christ in spite of me? Has she shrunk from His likeness because of me? Do I sanctify her or hold her back? Is she a better woman because she is married to me?R. Kent Hughes

God doesn’t want me to be a ‘fix him’ wife, God wants me to be a ‘love him’ wife.Lysa TerKeurst

Great marriages don’t happen by luck or by accident. They are the result of a consistent investment of time, thoughtfulness, forgiveness, affection, prayer, mutual respect, and a rock-solid commitment between a husband and a wife.Dave Willis

A good marriage isn’t something you find; it’s something you make and you have to keep on making it.Gary Thomas

When over the years someone has seen you at your worst, and knows you with all your strengths and flaws, yet commits him- or herself to you wholly, it is a consummate experience. To be loved but not known is comforting but superficial. To be known and not loved is our greatest fear. But to be fully known and truly loved is, well, a lot like being loved by God. It is what we need more than anything. It liberates us from pretense, humbles us out of our self-righteousness, and fortifies us for any difficulty life can throw at us. – Timothy Keller

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Marriage is good, and married life is good. That it is “good” does not mean that there aren’t serious challenges within married life. Beyond these quotes on married life, those challenges need to be addressed by the couple head-on, and sometimes they need to help of a trained and licensed therapist to unpack their concerns and develop the skills they need to do married life well. If you and your spouse are working through some issues and you’ve come to an impasse, it may help you to ask for help from a Christian marriage and family therapist to walk with you on your journey.

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